3 Ways To Conquer Self-Doubt & Start Feeling Flawless

I am feeling triggered Today and I want to share with you how I over come self doubt when it shows it's ugly head:

I used to be very self conscious years ago. I was afraid of criticism and afraid of approval. After years of self work and shifting my mindset around this, I can tell you that those days are gone. It's not that we never experience self doubt, it's that we know how to bounce back quicker, instead of spending days, weeks, months or years in self doubt, you get over it even in the span of hours.

Whenever you're entering new territory, your mind will try to keep you safe, telling you at times a bunch of lies that only make you feel bad in the effort to keep you stuck. You have to know that.

As women we have to connect with our bodies, emotions and heart to really know what's the truth to really succeed in life.

So here is what I do:

1. I recognise there is an amazing opportunity in self doubt. It is AMAZING to really clear the fear away. ( I do EFT Tapping or any other energy releasing technique that is the best suited for the situation). This helps me release the negative energy in my field and it helps me clear the path to higher self love, higher love & abundance manifested in my life in general.

The lesson is: if it is still there, it is blocking new opportunities from coming to your life.

2. I fill myself with love: It is a excellent opportunity to start declaring some new affirmations in my life that DO support me. I look at myself in the mirror and I start telling myself how amazing I am. You get what you focus on, remember this. If you stay focused in judging or doubting yourself, it will be reflected with the people and situations around you.

Here is how I am filling myself up with love as I write this:

3. It's an opportunity to celebrate diversity. When we are experiencing self doubt, a funny trick the ego tries is to make us feel better or worse than other people. None of these work. 

Here is the catch, you have to be madly and truly in love with yourself. Love your strengths and "weaknesses". You are unique, there is no one else like you. So notice the pattern, do you celebrate people? If there is anything you truly desire to improve , let love be your guide to do so. Not fear.  You'll notice the difference if you feel expanded (love) or if you feel contracted (Fear).  

A really neat exercise I do is that if I see something I love from somebody else , I also claim it for myself too: "She's gorgeous. So Am I.", "She has such a unique style and I do too", "She has achieved so much, and so have I".

We are all expressions of love in different and beautiful ways.

Treat everyone as a loving equal, it really creates a beautiful ripple effect in your life.

Everyone wins.

PS. If you want to know more about how to find your voice, feel confident in your own skin and become the woman you're capable of becoming, check out my "Find Your Voice In The World" intensive details here.

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Download this training if you are ready to break the cycle of self doubt, find yourself and create new opportunities that align you with more love and abundance!. 

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The Real Reason Why I Started Coaching In The First Place

Phew, I am finally feeling free to share this. The main reason why I hired my first coach was because I was looking for love outside of me. I wanted to find my soulmate in hopes he would fill all of my wounds, so to speak.

I thought to myself, this will be easy...a few affirmations here and there and tara! we would meet, fall in love and everything would be easy. It turns out that process looked completely different than what I had expected. I had to look within, I had to fall madly in love with myself, really know how valuable and amazing I am as a woman.

I cleared a lot of my wounds and found something much greater than what a relationship could give to me, I found myself. There are other aspects of my life that I was completely disconnected from: my passion, what made me happy and staying committed to bring them to life no matter what.

Before, my mind was in chaos when things weren't working out in my love life. I would cancel everything out and just live through the motions like a zombie, lifeless.

Now, I'm still dating but I am completely different from who I was before, I have a whole new mindset and support system that is teaching me what REAL love is (Plus, I have the best Love Coach ever- Nicole Moore) I know that when I marry it will be for a whole different set of reasons than what I first started this journey. 

This desire to find love brought me so much JOY, I no longer feel like a zombie and I am doing what I love: helping other women like me find themselves and reach their desires, no matter what. Makes me so glad I got out of that FUNK. My chaos and my desire to overcome it has helped so many women find themselves too and it is the best feeling in the whole world.

Love is SO powerful, it isn't just a relationship with another person. First and foremost, it is your relationship with yourself, with the universe/God and your relationship with your partner and loved ones. It is the whole reason why we are here.

I am really happy because in the pursuit of finding myself, I've awakened a sense of confidence and peace so profound because I am doing what I love, I make time for my family and friends. I have priorities, I don't lose myself in my love life anymore and more than anything, I know how to balance out my life and reach for my desires, no matter what. I am committed to me, to my development and mastering life with a smile on my face. Once you find yourself and have the courage to follow your true passions, everything lines up. It's magical.

If you want to know how I did and how you can have a powerful breakthrough like this one.

I invite you to join me Thursday on a live training to guide you on how to leave your comfort zone and take the big leap to finding yourself here: www.nicoleelissa.com/courage


Ready To Find Yourself & Create A Life You're Passionate About? Join Me On An Exclusive Free Training This Thursday: 

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A Special Weekend To Connect With Your Joy & Radiance

I've been thinking about you and what would be of the highest service to you and your happiness. It is essential for every woman to connect with their feminine radiance, intuition and joy.

I've done market research for a very special summit I am planning to empower women and help them to open up to love, to greater joy and connection and from what i've discovered most women are feeling exhausted, they are using too much masculine energy.

Are you extending too much masculine energy?

The women I've interviewed are trapped in work for more than eight hours a day, they don't have time to play and have fun, give back to themselves and they don't have time for love.

Most women I interviewed desire to focus on themselves, really fill their life with love. There is a big disconnect from where they are to where they want to be. There is a void that needs to be filled and the work is internal.

Part of the reason there is this disconnect is because, as women we have built a wall around us to protect us from getting hurt or facing failure, what we don't realize is that this wall is blocking out everything good that can come in, as well.

It is my intention to help you remove that wall, shield, armour you've built around you and allow you to reconnect with your joy, your radiance, happiness and love.

A radical and total shift is waiting for you if are ready to open up and allow yourself to receive love and joy.

There is a feminine way for you to manifest joy, alignment, peace and happiness without over extending your energy or efforts or being too masculine.

What is possible for you if you decide to work on removing this wall?

Quite easily: more joy, a deeper sense of who you are, guidance to follow through, own your femininity, new job opportunities, new business opportunities, more money, more love, dates, partners and most importantly... a deep sense of worthiness.

A sense of who you are, how valuable you are and not only is it going to help you to create wholesome relationships, it will help you feel confident in your own skin.

I remember feeling disconnected and it was no fun. I was constantly having breakouts, bing eating panic attacks and I felt hollow on the inside. Connecting with my desires and joy was the best decision I could ever make.If this is an absolute YES from you, I have decided to do something radical and allow you to open up to all of this an more in just the span of a weekend.

It's possible to do this in the span of a weekend, believe me.

I've created the space for four women who are 100% ready to commit to their joy and give back to themselves with "Your Big Leap Of Joy" Weekend Immersion program.

Take advantage of the opportunity here.
We will work on removing the blocks and old limiting beliefs around your happiness, open up to receive even more love, money and how to follow through with your real desires.

If you are ready to do the healing and open up to a greater sense of peace and alignment, this is for you.

I am offering this program to only four women for an unprecedented investment or value exchange, as I only work with a selected group of women at the time and I desire to reward women who take fast action and give to themselves.I won't be offering this opportunity probably until next year, my programs for the rest of the year are shifting, as we speak.

So, if you are ready to give to yourself, I've opened up a few spaces to have a quick chat with me to find out this is the right program for you.

Ps. I can't wait to share with you, over the phone the bonus goodies (Over 400 USD worth of them) that come in this program.

A weekend just for you could be the gift your body, spirit and mind has been asking for quite a while.

The higher you allow yourself to connect with joy, the better life gets. Can't wait to see what is in store for you. You deserve to be thriving and living in bliss, schedule your appointment here.

To an extraordinary life ,


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New Article: The Two Main Elements For Connectedness, Growth & A Life Full Of Love

Today, I’ve decided to talk to you about the two main elements  to connectedness and growth. Being fully happy, thriving, honouring and knowing who you are as a woman. 

The keys are self responsibility and vulnerability.

Being accountable with your actions, thoughts, emotions towards your own personal version of success & being open, raw, vulnerable and ready for the next stepthat will add more love to your life.

If you are desiring to have beautiful, empowering, raw, vulnerable and open relationships… what are you doing to get there?

If you are ready to find yourself and build a powerful foundation in who you are to create a life you are madly in love with, what are you doing to get there?

Both scenarios require for you to be open to growth, be responsible with your action steps and vulnerable enough to face the outcome.

I want to share something with you that I’ve spoken about in several conversations I’ve had this week with the ladies who signed up  to have a powerful conversation with me.

If you aren’t willing to be vulnerable with yourself, really acknowledge and honor your feelings about a situation, you are only pushing love away.

By love, I mean: feeling connected with yourself, trusting yourself and decisions, falling madly in love with yourself and calling in  that special partner, if you desire to do so.

The key denominator of the ladies who contacted me this week was:  their  desire for more.
More love, more passion, more connectedness with who they are.

Are you willing to do the work?
Are you willing to be vulnerable, move, grow and expand?
Are you willing to challenge your current views on the situation and completely transform your results?
Are you willing to go for your best life?

If you are, then what are you going to do about it?

If you are unclear about your next step, I can help you find the right answer within yourself and map out a plan so you are successful.

I invite you to have a powerful conversation with me for 90 minutes on your next step to transform your life through love so you can have your biggest breakthrough of 2015.

There are only a few spots left. Take advantage of this opportunity. Let’s see how much your life can change in 90 minutes (Select the time slot that works for you here).

Call is free of cost and only for the brave women who are ready to take action!

P.S. Select the time that works best for you here . Come with an open mind and a readiness for love. Select your personal training with me here.

Loads of love,


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#SelfLoveMonday – Finding Your Own Voice

Last week was really exciting and transformational. It really got me thinking on what I love doing, clarity, the true change my  clients are experiencing and my favourite coaching topics.  Any Guesses on my favourite topics? I am supper excited about YOU feeling good about your self worth and net worth.  

I am VERY excited to announce this: from now on, I will focus mainly on this area.  It’s the one area that truly gets me going  AND super pumped.  On Self Love Monday’s I’ll share:

  • Transformational Articles, videos, programs, trainings on Self Love, Confidence, Self Worth & Net Worth.

With that said,  let’s talk today about finding your own voice.

There are many moments in life were we find ourselves looking for outside validation of our decisions, thoughts and desires.  Do you ever find yourself modifying your desires based on the opinions of others, family, loved ones, coworkers, etc.? 
Do you desire to recreate that person’s life or do you want to do things on your own terms?

I find that the main reason why we share these desires with our loved ones is because we desire support, to feel safe while we are embarking a on a new road.  This is totally normal, we ALL desire to be supported, loved and cared for.

My mentor, in one of her trainings, said: A man’s greatest desire is to have his thoughts respected and a woman’s greatest desire is to have her feelings respected. 

This heavily resonated with me. What happens when we feel disrespected in this area? either we let it slide, shut down, stop sharing, become cautious or if we are not conscious about it, we start to slowly modify our desire to fit someone else’s idea of GREAT. 

Loving yourself has a lot to do with honouring your ideas and desires.  My easiest and most effective technique to honor your voice is to associate your desire with the underlying core feeling that this desire will bring to you. When you are clear on the feeling,  you will have unwavering faith to manifest it. The how could change but the goal won’t.

It also pays off to have a  group that has similar goals and supports you fully.  There is no need to invest your energy explaining your desires to people who emotionally bring you down.

Bottom line: Own your YES, don’t mind the rest.

PS. If you desire to receive the right mentorship and support to fully reclaim your self worth personally and professionally, reply to this e-mail to see if we are a right fit to work together.  I  only have four spots left for my Six Month Transformation Coaching Program!


Loads of Love,



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Let go of your fears and show up for LOVE like you never have before!

A guide on how to love yourself fully and release all blame.

PicsArt_1413756331917All my life I grew up with the belief that love was recognition, validation and approval of who I was by others.  This started with my parents. I felt like I was to blame for a lot of situations since I was very little. Key words: I felt.

It had a huge impact on my view on love while I was growing up. Looking at everything that has happened in my life, I’ve come to realize how every encounter has been a call for love, as Marianne Williamson says.

I’ve grown from a place of not taking care of myself, projecting neediness unto others because surely they were responsible for my happiness. Being in a relationship would solve the validation and love I felt I was lacking since I was a little girl.

I am really grateful for parents and everything they’ve taught me and I know how much they love me.  I just perceived certain situations as a kid that magnified the idea that love was outside of me.

Thinking like this only led me to repeat the same story over and over again, creating a pattern that increased exponentially when my dad passed away suddenly.

Since then, the universe’s love has been so amazing that it has helped me become extremely self-aware on how to heal my relationship with myself.  Allowing me to stop co creating based on known and hidden fears, release the urge to control others and simply show up for love in ways that I never thought were possible before.

I am grateful this journey that started by being allowing twists and turns, laughing and enjoying my way through it all, because we are always guided to our highest purpose.

Today, I decide to share how I did it and continue to do so, I hope this helps you get there too:

  1. Be open to be vulnerable: Looking within can be scary, terrifying even for some and that is completely understandable but we must be willing to look at our ego and see how it is trying to trick us to believe that we are not good enough or better vice-versa. Our ego is based on fear. Analyze if what we have been co creating up until this point in our lives comes from fear.  If it is, we must understand that if we do not make the decision to move on from this stage, we must take ownership of what will continue to show up in our life.  So I say, looking within can be scary but ultimately, it will save us.


  1. Eliminate all judgment: In a few words, what we resist, persists. It is so easy for our ego to blame others and especially ourselves for everything that we have seen unfold so far that supports the idea that we are not good enough or on the contrary, better than others to fulfill a certain dream. When in reality, we are all reflections of each other. Become an observer, release attack thoughts. Let’s be in the energy that says we are ready for a more expansive experience that supports us and not an energy that indicates the contrary.

  1. Forgive and let go: Forgive who hurt us and forgive ourselves for not recognizing our value up until this point. Forgiveness is a call to raise our frequency to love and take responsibility for what is coming next. If we are not forgiving, there is a good chance that we are still holding judgment and as I stated above: what we resist, persists. We don’t want that. Letting go means that we cannot change outside forces. It means that we are responsible for our own happiness. We are releasing everyone to be who they are meant to be and not trying to force them to feed our needs.

  1. True love is an inside job: Releasing judgment, allows us to go from victim to hero in seconds.  We realize that is truly up to us how we show up in the world. It allows us to come from a place of compassion for others and for ourselves. This allows us to be truly authentic and never place our value on somebody else’s hands. Move from a mindset of giving rather than having. Be the love that you want to experience.

How? Practicing self-care, be more understanding of our needs and desires, nurture our inner child with new positive and empowering thoughts that are aligned with our highest truth and have fun during the process!

Incorporate these points to your life and get ready for major positive shifts.  We’ll break free from old patterns and start creating from a place of love.

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The best decision I made this year

One of the biggest decisions I made this year to be true to my journey was to fully discover my natural hair. I suffered for several years wanting to do this and I can finally say the struggle is over. I was overcome with sadness because I didn’t have natural long sleek hair. Everywhere I went people would make snide comments about my hair type, all of that leaving me feeling inadequate, feeling as if I didn’t belong or if something was wrong with me.

I’d always wonder why my hair would be described as bad while others was considered good. Deep down I knew all of this was crap. We are all made divine in our own truth so I knew it was up to me to be fully present and loving towards myself by acknowledging that I would never hone my true beauty if I continued to be scared what society thought of me.  Continue reading “The best decision I made this year”

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