Last week was really exciting and transformational. It really got me thinking on what I love doing, clarity, the true change my clients are experiencing and my favourite coaching topics. Any Guesses on my favourite topics? I am supper excited about YOU feeling good about your self worth and net worth.
I am VERY excited to announce this: from now on, I will focus mainly on this area. It’s the one area that truly gets me going AND super pumped. On Self Love Monday’s I’ll share:
Transformational Articles, videos, programs, trainings on Self Love, Confidence, Self Worth & Net Worth.
With that said, let’s talk today about finding your own voice.
There are many moments in life were we find ourselves looking for outside validation of our decisions, thoughts and desires. Do you ever find yourself modifying your desires based on the opinions of others, family, loved ones, coworkers, etc.?
Do you desire to recreate that person’s life or do you want to do things on your own terms?
I find that the main reason why we share these desires with our loved ones is because we desire support, to feel safe while we are embarking a on a new road. This is totally normal, we ALL desire to be supported, loved and cared for.
My mentor, in one of her trainings, said: A man’s greatest desire is to have his thoughts respected and a woman’s greatest desire is to have her feelings respected.
This heavily resonated with me. What happens when we feel disrespected in this area? either we let it slide, shut down, stop sharing, become cautious or if we are not conscious about it, we start to slowly modify our desire to fit someone else’s idea of GREAT.
Loving yourself has a lot to do with honouring your ideas and desires. My easiest and most effective technique to honor your voice is to associate your desire with the underlying core feeling that this desire will bring to you. When you are clear on the feeling, you will have unwavering faith to manifest it. The how could change but the goal won’t.
It also pays off to have a group that has similar goals and supports you fully. There is no need to invest your energy explaining your desires to people who emotionally bring you down.
Bottom line: Own your YES, don’t mind the rest.
PS. If you desire to receive the right mentorship and support to fully reclaim your self worth personally and professionally, reply to this e-mail to see if we are a right fit to work together. I only have four spots left for my Six Month Transformation Coaching Program!
Loads of Love,
Today Would Have Been My Father’s 58th Birthday And I Choose To Celebrate Our Relationship.
I Am Sharing The Four Mindset Shifts That Have Helped Me Tremendously To Understand Love And Show Up For Relationships That Supports Growth.
My Relationship with my dad has been my biggest container for growth over the last four years, and yes I do mean after he passed away. My Father was a man of a small amount of words but his actions spoke louder than words. This was a hard concept for me to understand while growing up because I LOVE Talking and getting excited over the smallest details. I admire him without question, I’ve always wanted to grow up like him: Level-headed, super responsible and audacious. He always wanted what was best for me, we wouldn’t see eye to eye on a few areas but he always listened to what I had to say and we would reach a middle ground always.
This is what I’ve learned about relationships, they are our greatest containers for growth, mainly because we have all been raised in a different way and we have different ways we express and showcase our love for each other.
These are my four tips on how to heal your relationships:
- Recognise what is your love language. How do you show your appreciation and love for the people you care most in your life? It might be through words, actions or contact. Ponder this for a moment. This will give you greater clarity on your preference. Also, think of the ways you enjoy to receive affection from others and if there is a discrepancy there.
- Think of the person you would like to heal your relationship with. How have you shown them your appreciation and set up the environment to talk with them and ask them what’s their love language. You might be surprised by what you find out. Truly listen to what they have to say and then tell them what is yours. Reach to an agreement.
- Love is a two way street and an inside job: Let people love you to their best capability. Love isn’t judgemental or a way to get your needs met. Even if we are talking about a romantic relationship, this person would be a partner, not the answer to your problems. Always know that you are responsible for your own happiness.
- Be open to guidance after you’ve been emotionally triggered and take action. If this person does something that brings up an unwanted feeling in you, learn to forgive and let go. These triggers are perceptions you were called to heal from your past. It could be that you feel you are not good enough or that you don’t belong, etc. You would be forgiving this person in particular and the one who you perceived this fake reality from. After you do this, create a new mantra for yourself that reinforces the positive contrast of the negative feeling trigger.
Hope this helps. Today, I no longer hold anyone responsible for my happiness. I am immensely grateful for the love my dad had to offer and all the growth I have gotten from his teachings and insights. Happy Birthday in heaven, dad! Love you to the moon and back. <3
If you desire to feel at peace, confident, regain your personal power back to create the most beautiful relationships ever and heal any negative perceptions that you may have about being good enough, contact me at www.nicoleelissa.com/clarity-call
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Loads of love,